Below, I have listed some facts about bedwetting, however, please note that the listed points are not inclusive, they have been provided to offer you a starting point in your decision making process. It is always recommended you explore all options available to you and your child, and that you have ensured your child is not faced with an underlying medical problem causing them to have wet beds.
Your child is not the only one wetting their bed
Bedwetting (or enuresis) is an area that affects a large proportion of children. If your child is experiencing wet beds this can be very frustrating and indeed unsettling for your child. When a child becomes older, the need to have dry beds becomes more urgent in particular when an older child may be left feeling excluded from activities that involve overnight stays – sleep overs and residential trips are prime examples of these.
A child that wets that bed will often feel that they are the only one with this habit, but this couldn’t be further from the truth. At any given time, seven million kids on average are faced with a wet bed on some or indeed most nights. Children will gain control of their ‘night’ bladder at different ages, with 95% of children being dry at night at the age of 10. Another way to look at that figure is to say that 1 in 20 children will have a wet bed on a regular basis at the age of 10. It is also worth noting that there is a slightly higher occurrence of bedwetting in boys than in girls.
Why your child may be wetting their bed
There appear to be some common factors related to and potentially causing bedwetting. A child may even present with a combination of factors, here are some of the causes:
- Underlying medical problem (less than 3% of cases)
- Producing large volumes of urine in the night
- A small bladder, or an overactive bladder
- Suffering from constipation
- Being a deep/heavy sleeper
- Having a genetic connection (parent experienced bedwetting)
- Feeling psychological stress
Available bedwetting treatments
As bedwetting is such a prevalent condition, you are likely to come across a wide range of suggestions and treatment options when searching online or indeed when consulting your GP for advice. Here are some of the methods you may want to consider but please note that this list is not to be taken as my recommendation, it is purely listed for informational purposes:
- Bedwetting alarms, buzzers, bells and pads
- Alternative treatments
- Drinking and bladder training
- Online bedwetting programs
Never do this if your child is having wet beds
When you feel frustrated as a parent, it can be very easy to take that irritation out on your child but this will be counterproductive to solving your child’s bedwetting habits. Your child is not wetting their bed on purpose, or out of laziness and it is crucial you bear this in mind whenever you feel angry or sad with your child. Using threats or shaming your child into having a dry bed will not work, it will simply damage their self-esteem further, and this can lead to long term negative consequences.
Time to take action and deal with the wet beds
If your child has reached the age of 7 years, and their bedwetting is causing you, and them, stress and anxiety, this is often the time to take action. Also, has your child declared a wish to stop wetting their bed? If this is the case, I can definitely recommend that you support your child proactively and positively.
Having a wet bed every morning can place a lot of pressure on your child from feeling upset, stressed out, lonely, experiencing low self-esteem, as well as fear of being excluded from peer activities. All of this, has an equally serious negative effect on parents, and should not be ignored. In fact, you may feel embarrassed about your child’s inability to stay dry making it difficult to discuss the situation with friends and family. You may start developing anxious responses because you worry about their future, or maybe you have developed angry responses towards your child from the stress of washing bed clothes all the time. Or worst case scenario, you have given up, feeling powerless and unsure of how to help your child overcome this.
A bedwetting programme can help your child
I strongly feel that by working together, and using an online approach for bedwetting, your child can discover how to stop their bedwetting habit and achieve dry beds by using natural exercises. Have a browse on the internet and identify a solution that would appeal to your parenting style and your child’s personality.
Support 4 Kids is in your corner – our Boost Young Minds course has a masterclass on bedwetting. The Dry Night module will be based on an interactive approach which is completely safe to undertake and it involves no use of medication. This specialised masterclass will be appropriate for children from 7 years and up. As with all our solutions, it is crucial that your child is a willing participant. During the bedwetting masterclass, your child will be inspired to take control of their bedwetting habit by being encouraged to, among other things, start recognising the signals of a full bladder and developing the confidence in their own abilities of achieving dry nights. The activities will be developed with your child in mind, being very sensitive and understanding to their emotional state.
By Tina Elven